Thursday, August 14, 2014

28 and Single

Maturing delightfully like a delicious fine wine is a special treat in the unfolding for most women. 

When you’ve spent most of your 20s living daringly, spontaneously and wholeheartedly, you’re going to enter that big THREE-OH (30) feeling like you’ve blossomed and advanced to a whole other level. Mark Ms. Carrie Bradshaw’s words that, “Your 20s are to make mistakes, your 30s are to learn the lessons and your 40s are to pay for the drinks.”


Of course there is always an exception to the rule, but wreaking havoc in your 20s that makes for great stories is SO worth it when you have the luxury to do so because you still aren't one-hundred percent independent.

We may think that we've gotten to where we’re at because of our own successes, and yes our accomplishments have helped us get where we’re at, but the majority of our life we have depended on some kind of help and support growing up and it isn't until perhaps our mid-20s when we become more on our own.

Live it up, lighten up and seize each day because at the end it’s not so much about your chronological age that will determine how much fun you’re allowed to have. You are allowed to have as much fun and happiness that you allow yourself to have. It’s never too early or too late.

BUT, getting older definitely does mean becoming more aware of what you want because you've had a lifetime of contrast that made you expand and propel towards what you really want.  It's awesome knowing that we go through a continuous metamorphosis and we shed off old misconceptions and naive mindsets while at the same time feeling more complete than ever.  


And this is exactly why I'm so grateful that at 28 I'm still not married and don’t have kids because I’m very free-spirited, adventurous, daring and being only responsible for myself means that I can be selfish and completely free to make my personal development my main focus. I want to be in alignment with myself so much that whilst I reign in my region of bliss I’ll be rendezvousing with like-minded people where we’ll be thrivin’ and flowin’ and only good things can come of this, no doubt. I’ll be more aligned to what I want because I’ll be what I want in someone else.

I've also learned that when you’re feeling good and content with life, you’ll be more at ease and you’ll instinctively be picky.  You’ll be picky about your thoughts because you’re going to choose the best feeling thoughts now and you’re going to be picky about everything in general and go ahead and be picky!  You should be able to place an order to your liking (literally and figuratively) and then wait for it to arrive. You’ll come across other offers that may oblige you to sacrifice, but  don’t conform and just keep having fun on the way without losing the certainty that what you ideally and exactly want exists and is on its way to you because life only gets better and better.