Rx: Positive Mindfulness

I once ran a full 26.2 mile marathon and this experience on its own shed so much light on how powerful our mind is. When you are determined and focused on your objective the possibilities are endless. The most I had ever run before that was three miles and not once did I doubt the possibility of accomplishing this goal. I remember feeling so much pain in my knees the morning of the race because I had hurt them on my 20 mile training run. The pain did not make me succumb to forfeiture though. I was committed to this challenge and with all my kind donors who believed in me, that no matter how much pain I felt I was going to endure it until the end. 

At the Hilton-San Francisco lobby about ready for the Nike Women's Marathon 2012! 

I stopped at the 13 mile marker for pain killers and then at mile 22 for ice packs. The doctor advised me to stop running, but what was 4.2 miles at this point? So I kept on running! I wanted to run a full marathon as a personal goal but if I was going to run that much distance I was going to do it for a great cause. I had envisioned myself fundraising for a noble cause, reaching my fundraising goal and arriving at the finish line where a San Francisco firefighter would be waiting for me carrying my little blue box with my marathon finisher Tiffany & Co. necklace. Finishing a marathon requires so much determination and it is one of the most exhilarating and fulfilling experiences... EVER! 

I surpassed my fundraising goal! My fundraising page: http://pages.teamintraining.org/sctx/nikesf12/lcoriadnk2

And despite partaking in a run for the cure, I did not expect to one day be at a hospital (exactly three years later) and experience a doctor telling us that our father has been diagnosed with esophageal cancer. That is one tough ass pill to swallow. That dreaded six letter curse word that makes you cringe every time you hear it. 

The first two weeks were a dark, negative blur but as the murkiness cleared up I began to do my own personal therapy which always allows me to inevitably see the silver lining. I began to put more attention to my feelings of GRATITUDE, APPRECIATION & LOVE with all our family and friends who have been showering us with so much love and support during these times. We have an exceptional support system going and this only shows how beautiful and inspiring humans can be. It is such an inspiration to see how people get together in times of need. We were all devastated for my Daddy-O, but seeing so much LOVE has been even more POWERFUL and impacting than the time we got the news from the doctor. Our spirits have been uplifted and we have expanded wonderfully in a different way. 

I've convinced myself that cancer or any sickness is not superior to the strong spirit of a person filled with positivity. I strongly believe that WE are superior. I think that it has been stigmatized so much that even just the uttering of those six letters can make you sick. That word makes us wobble; therefore, I prefer to not utter those words but rather tell my dad that he has a 'gripita' that requires a stronger dosage. 

Sometimes I feel the best prescription to any ailment is having positive mindfulness or using positive/ cognitive psychology on oneself.  This means a plethora of things such as being consciously aware of your thoughts, having a strong mind, being emotionally intelligent, being informed yet staying positive despite how alarming some info can be, maintaining the balance, being at peace with where you're at, finding the silver lining in everything and just chillin'; cause we're not coming out alive anyway, so we might as well chill and make the most of our time! 

This may be easier said than done, but if you're at a point where you can't enjoy life due to sickness ask yourself: What can help diffuse the pain right now so I can regain my happiness? What will help me flow towards the cure or solution? 

The strong desire to get better and the envisioning how good you want to feel. Focusing and visualizing on how amazing you want life to be right now will have you going downstream versus upstream. You must have a sense of purpose to be alive. Why do you want to be alive? And then visualize yourself there.

“Therefore the more worry, expressed fear, resistance or panic you have towards negative energy, the more it has the ability to steal your vital life force. Constantly talking about the Illuminati, the government, the 1% or some seemingly demonic forces keeping you or the World stuck, literally gives these forces your power and energy. That’s right, the very act of thinking about how much power negative forces have, is the very way they can take your power from you. Don’t feed the Trolls…they have an insatiable appetite and have no problem feasting on everything you hold dear." (Abraham-Hicks) 

Finishing that 26.2 mile run with a sigh of relief and two thumbs up! 

When you're looking at the direction of where you want to be, naturally you will flow there. How can you expect to get what you desire when you keep on looking at the opposite direction? Be aware of the power of your thoughts! Remember that your thoughts are so powerful that they can heal you or destroy you! 

On the same token: “Without the problem there can never be a solution. Without the problem there cannot be the expansion, and most important, there cannot be the journey from the problem to the solution which is what we are all about.”

Peace & Love, my friends,  ✌ & ♥.

A Cheater's Sorrow

Every time I hear someone say that all men are the same, I cringe! I cannot bash men because I have four brothers and each one of them is amazing. Also, education and open-mindedness does not allow for me to generalize in such a way. Men will be as amazing as one visualizes them to be and vice versa. 

Of course men complain about women as well and that's because no one is exempt from encountering bitter or heartbreaking experiences. Bottom line, we attract whatever we give out. We must be able to offer what we ourselves ask for. We attract our reflection for the most part and some other times people are just jerks. There's always a silver lining in every encounter we have with contrast though, because it allows for us to feel more, want more and expand deliciously.

In retrospect, whenever we were farthest away from alignment and our own desires, it was when we made the worst decisions and attracted what we least wanted.

It's safe to say that one of the things we have the least tolerance for is the lack of honesty in a relationship. When a friend talks about their cheating and lying ex-boyfriend (or ex-girlfriend) it makes our blood boil and it’ll make everyone an empath even if just for that brief moment. 

Why is it so difficult for some people to be honest and upfront? For some it comes so easy and natural, for others not so much. I feel as if writing about this topic has been way past due because it’s something I hear a lot about and therefore I wanted to put my two cents (2¢) in by shining a bit of light on this.

First of all, we can sense almost immediately when someone is being shady and we feel offended by it because it's disrespectful. It's like they're insulting our intelligence by feeding us a ton of bull. The being lied to and cheated on is trifling in varying degrees of intensity depending on our life experience with it.

There are so many reasons why people decide to use deceit instead of honesty and quite frankly, it's for the most part due to unresolved issues. They're going about life with an empty oxygen tank and an unstable foundation. Instead of taking it personally and being offended by it, feel compassion because it's for the most part an underdeveloped personality trait or the lack of virtue; because honestly, honesty is a very attractive and precious virtue.

As we evolve and continue to become more emotionally intelligent, we shouldn't let this bring us down because we should know by now that it is always about them and never about you. I repeat, anything done against you is NEVER about YOU, it's about THEM.

In order to be more accepting, it helps to look at the big picture, so let's break down the reasons why people lie or cheat:

1) They don't have the courage or integrity to confront and resolve the situation, so they rather cheat or do things behind the shade. 

2) They aren't happy with their current life experience so they rather embellish it or downright lie.

3) They are far from where they want to be so they are acting out of desperation and frustration.

"The liar's punishment is, not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else." -George Bernard Shaw

Isn’t that sad? We tend to feel bad for the one who got lied to, but in reality something more viciously hurtful is happening within the deceitful. They aren’t happy with themselves or with their life. Because, why would a genuinely happy person lie if they're loving life and spreading goodness? Only someone who isn’t happy with some aspect of their life would feel the need to lie. They are sorrowful souls in distress because they suffer the liar’s punishment. Doesn’t it make more sense to accept them and wish them well? 

“The red flag to be really precise is… lying. If someone lies, then they’re fundamentally not interested in being genuine or truthful or being present. They’re fundamentally more interested in being right. (There is perhaps a special level of lying within an intimate relationship—not a white lie, but a habit of lying to one you're closest to.) That leads to the green flag, the ultimate green flag is... someone in the relationship has to be the first one to give an inch; if they are willing to have a sense of humor and flexibility like that saying that bamboo is so strong because it is willing to bend.” -Waylon Lewis, Elephant Journal

Accept them but then move on because you’re not a vibrational match to their dissonance. Align to your own desires, attract your match, be flexible with each other and indulge in each other’s depth and substance that each of your divine selves has the potential of radiating.

Regardless, the contrast is what provides us with the most delicious expansion. So what if you've been cheated on, it only led to liberation and the shooting of more rockets of desires. Love & Live On! ♥

Summer Travels 2015- Reflection

My gitana soul is content with all my summer travels! I came home a bit overwhelmed trying to sort these million thoughts that are racing through my head; SO many experiences and SO much expansion! I met some extraordinary and amazing people who have inspired me to be, to want and to do more (as if I don't keep myself busy as it is)! I was also able to spend time with many of my beloveds who despite the distance, we picked up where we left off. I'm a lucky little lady and I'm so in LOVE with my life experience! ♥ And of course, a few summer romances along the way that continue to show me how I keep getting closer to my Iron man --Oh yes... I can feel it and I will keep collecting data while still enjoying the passion and pleasure on the way! ✌ ♥ Peace & Love, my friends.